When you're going through a divorce, you're likely overwhelmed with advice from well-meaning friends and family, not to mention seemingly endless websites and blogs. However, each situation is unique. That's why it's important to get a team of people around you who can provide experienced guidance and support.
Your first step is finding a family law attorney with whom you feel comfortable, who understands what you're seeking and will work for a settlement that is your and your children's (if you have them) best interests. Don't just look for the attorney with the most online ads. Talk to people you know who've gone through a divorce and were happy with their attorney.
Once you have an attorney, it's essential to be honest with him or her. This means discussing very personal information about your marriage and yourself. It may not be pretty, and you're likely not completely blameless for the disintegration of the marriage. However, it's essential for your attorney to know the facts to represent you properly.
One of the first things your attorney will likely ask you to do is gather information about your finances. The more aware you are of your and your spouse's financial situation, the better chance you have of getting a fair settlement.
Your attorney will ask you what you want from the divorce settlement. It's important to be realistic. You may hate your spouse and want to take everything he or she has. However, you need to work with your attorney to determine what you need to move on and what is a fair division of property.
You may need a team that includes a financial advisor, tax advisor, a forensic accountant and others. Your attorney will let you know, depending on your situation, what experts are worth spending money on to help you get a fair settlement.
A support system is also essential. Seek out friends and family whom you can trust and who will help you through this time. A good therapist and/or a support group can also be helpful. The more you can stay on an even keel emotionally, the better your judgment will be at a time when it's crucial to have a clear head and make good decisions.
Your Florida family law attorney can likely recommend a good therapist, masseuse, personal trainer or other professionals who will help you maintain your emotional and physical health during this stressful period.
Source: Forbes, "Alleviate Divorce Pain By Avoiding These 7 Common Mistakes," Michael F. Kay, Jan. 09, 2018