When you're going through a divorce, you're likely overwhelmed with advice from well-meaning friends and family, not to mention seemingly endless websites and blogs. However, each situation is unique. That's why it's important to get a team of people around you who can provide experienced guidance and support.
Your first step is finding a family law attorney with whom you feel comfortable, who understands what you're seeking and will work for a settlement that is your and your children's (if you have them) best interests. Don't just look for the attorney with the most online ads. Talk to people you know who've gone through a divorce and were happy with their attorney.